Hi guys,
What is self love. I think accepting our weaknesses, mistakes, qualities, flaws as it is, . And stand straight in crowd with full of confidence. Try to make effort to strengthen our weaknesses, so thet we can be more strong and confident. In my understanding this is what self love means. If we love ourselves we always try to improve our habits.
But in these days most of young males and females love to show others that they are in self love, and they don't need anyone, they love their own company. Which is by the way good for all of us if we are truly happy in that state. But I think they are not practicing true self love. They are just mixing self love with process of hiding their weakness and mood swings. For example most of the boys these days says that girls are money minded. They don't love poors. Insted of thinking that why would they love them, if they can't even take care of their self by earning enough money. They just say that someone should accept me as I am, not with demands. Due to this attitude they refuse their innerself to see the areas where they should have to work. Hiding their weakness by the name of self-love is not a good thing for themselves. Same in case of girls if we boys ask them to loose some weight they will get offended. Not girls, boys also get offended if someone ask them to change thier habits they also get offended. Few of them may start a routine of exercise but in few days they get trapped in their mood swings and drop the plan to change themselves. And again tell their mind that someone should love me as I am. Not with demands. Is this right, we are just finding escape from our weakness.
We are so affraid to change ourselves for the sake of our loved ones that we may loose our self respect. Even we defend our bad habits by saying love me as I am . I know there are many peoples who can relate with my perspective. Somewhere in their life they would be dealing with the guy or girl who just don't want to change their bad habits. Bad habits are not just smoking or something. Not caring about about thier loved one's emotions and In return expecting that they treat you with full of their heart. How this will work. You have to pay attention abot what and how your behaviour affecting loved ones.
This fake self love is affecting not only our personal life but also professional life. But I felt it in my love life, so that's why I thought it should be discussed.
If I'm not wrong , this is the biggest reason these days that most of the young couples are ending up alone and not getting married. It's not that they got hurt by someone. It is that they don't want to change themselves for the sake of their relationship. They don't like to follow instructions given by their elders.
If you still you can't get my point. I will give you a cenerio.
These days there are so many influencers on social media. And all of us like to meet these beautiful girls and boys or want to chat with them. What if they started chating. And you started meeting them. They are influencers they maintain themselves so well, then we get influenced. But what we do for ourselves so we can influence them back. Nothing, we scroll reels and eat junk foods with extra 30 kgs on. We expect them to like us. And if they reject us we feel that they are bad they don't care about our feelings. And after getting rejected we, insted of working on ourselves, we give it a name of self-love. Then we start eats what we like we do things what we like to do more. Insted of working on our weaknesses we hide them.Due to this a huge group of youngsters are going in lonlieness zone.
We should work on ourselves if we are weak somewhere in our traits. Improving ourselves means imroving the life of peoples who are in relations with you. And this is the true meaning of self love.
I hope you may find this observation relevant.
Thank you
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